- 🗓 08.10.2023 🗓 -

#Issue49

Learning never exhausts the mind. - Leonardo Da Vinci

Welcome to this weeks 'Modern Man' Newsletter

Tom here 👋 (The voice behind the project) @tomwatsonuk​

Here is you're round up of the best content, articles and resources (and personal insights) to help you live a better connected and more enriched life as the

MODERN MAN

-Physically - Mentally - Emotionally - Spiritually - Intellectually - Financially-

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-❝ Quote of the week ❞-

​Mark Manson On Life:

“It doesn’t necessarily ever get easier. You just get better at managing what’s hard.”

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- ✍️ Executive Summary ✍️-

In todays issue we are getting to grips with:

-Men vs Sex Bots

-Which country is the most promiscuous?

-Psychedelic Retreats

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❓ -WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO BE A MAN-❓

3 things I learnt this week that ponders what it might mean (or not) to be a man living in the modern world.

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1) Promiscuity

Which country is the most promiscuous? This article bares all!​

The Headlines:

• 🌏 NapLab's Global Promiscuity Index assessed 45 countries using six factors.
• 📊 Factors: mean age of virginity loss, sexual partners, STD rate, moral acceptance, legality of prostitution, and premarital sex.
• 🇦🇺 Australia topped as most promiscuous with high partners (13.3) and legal prostitution.
• 🌍 Other top countries: Brazil, Greece, Chile, New Zealand.
• 🇮🇳 India ranked least promiscuous with higher virginity loss age and fewer partners (3).
• 🔢 Turkey had highest partners (14.5) but not top due to other factors.

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2) The importance of our childhood years

I have been going over some of the notes I have highlighted following recently reading 'No More Mr Nice Guy' by Dr Robert Glover.

I thought this was a really simple yet effective breakdown fundamental childhood development

Glover States:

Children in various ways internalise a belief that they are not OK just as they are, and their survival depended on becoming something different.

Child Development Principles

-All children are born totally helpless.

-A child’s greatest fear is abandonment.

-All children are ego-centered.

-All children have numerous abandonment experiences when their needs are not met in a timely, judicious manner.

-When a child has an abandonment experience, he always believes that he is the cause.

- This naive misinterpretation creates toxic shame-a belief that he is “bad.”

-Children develop survival mechanisms to cope with their abandonment experiences, to prevent the experiences from happening again, and to hide their “badness” from themselves and others.

-These childhood survival mechanisms reflect the child’s inherent powerlessness and naive view of himself and the world.

You can buy his book on here on

🇬🇧 Amazon Uk​

🇺🇸 Amazon Us​

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3) Men vs Sex Bots

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A snippet from a recent 'Diary Of A CEO' Podcast where Professor Scott Galloway breaks down some of the alarming dating dyanamics for modern men... Full Episode is here: “It’s An Emergency!” The Number Of Men Having No Sex Increased 180%! - Professor Scott Galloway​

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⚡️-UNLOCK YOUR POTENTIAL-⚡️

As men we all live with blind spots!

It's time to unlock your potential, set the standard and become the multi faceted man you always wanted to be in these 3 core areas of life...

🧠 - Health- 💪🏻

Psychedelic Retreats Are Getting more Mainstream

Me:Hey boss I want to take some annual leave for a holiday

Boss: Sure! Anywhere nice...?

Me: Yeh a magic mushroom retreat in Jamaica

Boss: ............

Read more about it in this article: Ready for a trip? Psychedelic retreats are going mainstream​

The Headlines:

• 🌍 Growing Interest: Travelers seek psychedelic trips for unique vacations.
• 🍄 Legality: Psilocybin mushrooms gain popularity with eased restrictions.
• 🌴 Retreat Options: Companies offer diverse psychedelic retreats in various locations.
• 💼 Niche Retreats: Catering to specific groups, like executives in Canada.
• 🌀 Therapeutic Potential: Psychedelics explored for mental health and other issues.
• 💸 Cost: Retreats range $2k to $10k+, with risks and not for everyone.
• 🤔 Changing Perceptions: Psychedelic trips evolve from recreational to therapeutic.
• 📉 Not a Cure-All: Benefits come with costs and risks, not suitable for everyone.

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- 💸 Wealth, Career & Business💸 -

Why are UK workers taking more sick days – and should employers be worried?

​Find out here in this article​

The Headlines:

• 💼 UK had record-high sick leave in 2022, 185.6 million days lost.
• 🌐 Pandemic, with 10.5M Covid cases and long Covid, contributed.
• 🤒 Respiratory illnesses tripled, minor illnesses up 40%.
• 📉 Musculoskeletal sick days decreased due to better employer support.
• 🩺 Worsening public health and disability claims add to sick days.
• 💰 Lower-paid jobs saw significant sick leave increases.
• 🏠 Remote work reduces sick leave, but presenteeism is a concern.
• 🧠 Mental health issues may be underreported due to discomfort.
• 🌍 British workers take fewer sick days compared to global peers.
• 🤔 Employers should encourage a supportive sick leave culture.
• 💼 UK saw a record 185.6 million sick days in 2022.
• 🌐 Pandemic, with 10.5 million Covid cases, a key factor.
• 🤒 Respiratory illnesses tripled, colds and flu up 40%.

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❤️ Relationships & Sex ❤️

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The libido gap: how do we know it is real and what are the converging lines of evidence for it?

1. In marriages, wives report desiring sex less than their husbands across all age ranges - even into the late 30s when male libido declines and female libido sees an increase.
2. When asking men and women “how many sexual partners do you desire,” men consistently report wanting more lifetime sexual partners than women do.
3. Men cheat in relationships more than women, a well-observed sex difference. But additionally, men who cheat in relationships cheat more: of unfaithful husbands, 25% had more than one affair partner, only 5% of women had multiple affair partners.
4. When analyzing male and female sexual fantasies, male fantasies are: more varied, involve more sexual acts, and include more new sexual partners than female fantasies.
5. Men experience substantially more spontaneous physical arousal throughout the day.
6. Men masturbate more than women: this sex difference begins in adolescence and continues into old age. Across every age range.
7. Men are the primary consumers of most sexual content and services (porn, sex work).
8. Women report low sexual desire substantially more than men when being treated in clinical settings for sexual dysfunction.
9. fMRI shows higher activation in areas of the brain associated with sexual response for men than women when viewing erotic images. We also see the same with attractive faces; men show higher responses than women.
10. In visual attention tasks (eg eye gaze), men pay more attention to erotic images than women. Men spend more time looking at erotic images and disengage from looking less quickly.

Credit: Alex Date Psych on Twitter​

Study Reference: Younis, I., & Abdel-Rahman, S. H. (2013). Sex difference in libido. Human Andrology, 3(4), 85-89.

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🔋-OPTIMISE YOUR LIFE-🔋

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- 🤓 Physical Hack 🤓 -

Sick of expensive bottled water at hotels? Check out the hotel's fitness center instead - it should have a water cooler.

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- 💻 Digital Hack 💻 -

Need to fix a typo when writing on your phone? Drag left and right on your phone keyboard's spacebar to smoothly move the cursor back and forth, letter by letter.

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🤖 - AI - 🤖

This tool is pretty cool

​SoundVerse is an AI company that has developed an audio creation platform powered by an AI Assistant. They aim to revolutionize music creation using Generative AI, allowing users to create high-quality music quickly.

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💭-SMALL TALK & NUGGETS OF WISDOM-💭

-Stay Interested and Stay Interesting-

Become well rounded and the most interesting man in the room.... (Or at the water cooler?)

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-📆 On This Day 📆 -

On this day in 2001 Italy's worst civilian air disaster in nearly 30 years took place. A Cessna took a wrong turn on a taxiway at Linate Airport in Milan and crashed into an SAS airliner about to take off, which exploded, killing 118 people, including 4 airport workers.
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-💭Wisdom💭 -

A snippet from a great talk by Graham Weaver on “How to Live an Asymmetric Life,” at Stanford Graduate School of Business.

In this clip he shares a Buddist principle of Dukkha which is all about embracing the inevitable suffering of life.

Weaver states there are 4 main pillars in living an Asymmetric Life:

-Do Hard Things

-Do Your Thing

-Do it for decades

-Write Your Story

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​Full Talk Can Be Found Here​

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Travel

​Reminders of status can have real-world effects.

Flights that have a First Class cabin have 4x increased rates of air rage.

On planes where you need to walk through First Class to get to economy, it’s 9x - Michael Easter

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-🌀 Cool & Random🌀-

​Interesting article : Alien life in Universe: Scientists say finding it is 'only a matter of time'​

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The Headlines

• 🌌 Astronomers are hopeful about finding signs of life on a distant world in the next few years.
• 🔭 Telescopes analyze atmospheres for chemicals indicating living organisms.
• 🪐 James Webb Space Telescope recently hinted at extraterrestrial life, sparking excitement.
• 🌍 Scientists explore the "Goldilocks zone" for planets with conditions suitable for life.
• 🚀 Missions like Nasa's JWST, Habitable Worlds Observatory, and ESO's ELT aim for groundbreaking discoveries.
• 🌌 Focus on our Solar System includes optimism about finding life on Europa and Titan.
• 📡 Seti uses advanced telescopes to detect potential signals from alien civilizations.
• 🌌 Discoveries related to extraterrestrial life could revolutionize science and our understanding of the Universe.

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-🧐 Did You Know 🧐 -

The city of Portland, Oregon (USA) was named by a coin flip. Had the result landed the other way, the city would be named Boston, Oregon.

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-😆Just For Laughs 😆-

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🍿-What To Watch -🍿

Binge watched the whole David Beckham 4 part documentary this weekend 10/10

Available on Netlifx

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- 🔠 'Word Of The Week' 🔠 -

Word: Panacea

Pronunciation: pan-a-si-a

Meaning: a solution or remedy for all difficulties or diseases.

In Use:”the panacea for all corporate ills”

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❓ Question ❓

If we discover extraterrestrial life that's more advanced than us, how will that reshape our understanding of our place in the universe?

-🃏 ‘Dad Joke’ 🃏-

Why doesn’t the sun go to college? Because it has a million degrees.

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⁉️-Riddle-⁉️

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Last Weeks Riddle: There is a three digit number. The second digit is four times as big as the third digit, while the first digit is three less than the second digit. What is the number?

Answer: 141

This Weeks Riddle: Can you guess the next letter in the series? CYGTNLIT_

Answer: Revealed in nexts weeks issue!

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📸Image Of The Week 📸

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